Back in college I had a friend named Gena. We had a lot of classes and lab sessions together, because of similar degrees and similar classes we also ended up seeing a lot of Joe and Bill. These two weren't friends but work buddies, more or less. Whenever Gena and I would get together, we ended up talking about school and these two guys. She felt that Joe was extremely helpful and really nice, while Bill seemed to not be much of a team player and more or less didn't like her. I felt exactly the same way. Except completely opposite. Bill was the guy who was my better teammate and Joe not so much.
Who was right? How is it possible for two women to have these completely opposite reactions to the same person? I had (and still have) every respect for Gena, she's super brilliant and funny. Therefore I had (have) trouble saying that she was getting it totally wrong. On the other hand, I tend to be fairly perceptive about people so I couldn't just completely disregard all my beliefs. Even now, I struggle with this idea, where is the actual meeting ground between my perception and yours? How do we know? Who is the dick and who is the helpful guy? Maybe in the end, it all gets down to personal relationships, but on an H.R. level, how does one deal? (Thank goodness I never had to worry about anything like that.)
Posted by kerewin at August 16, 2005 09:56 PM